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our clients > testimonials > page 1 February 2006 "I figure that no two people would ever go to a life coach for the same reason. Some people need help finding a career that will suit them, some people suffer from anxiety, some people think that they are better than other people, some people are just lost altogether, but this I know… no one is perfect and everyone is faced at some point or another with their own personal dilemmas, difficulties and fears. The funny thing about life is that if we want to get better at tennis we get a tennis coach, if we want to learn to be a doctor we go to university but we are expected to learn all the really complicated things in life, like how to give love, receive love, find our true destiny, cope with death, failure and loneliness all by ourselves. Maybe we believe that our parents and peers, and life experiences will teach us all that we need to know, but what if they too are confused or suffering their own issues? These people are invaluable to us, but are they really the best people to teach us lessons if their advice is biased? Life Coaching is really one of the most logical things I have ever done. My perception of a life coach is simply someone, (who coincidentally needs to be a very patient, spiritually evolved and an intuitive person such as our Rarnee) to coach you in life; to help guide you to find out who you really are, to trust your intuition, to make better choices, to love yourself and accept other peoples differences, to stop judging, to stop controlling outcomes, to find your inner child, to take life lightly, to feel joy, to sing out loud, to be committed, to let yourself feel, to give unconditionally, to be open to opportunity, to feel free and so on and so on, but most importantly to simply love who you are for all that you are. A life coach can’t perform miracles, but they can help you to become a better person and I personally believe that is the very best we can do in life, is just try to be the best person we possibly can be. I believe that the difference between a counsellor as opposed to a life coach, is that a counsellor tries to get to the bottom of one’s behaviors by analyzing past experiences and so on and there is certainly a place for them in our lives. Sometimes we may need to understand why we are the way we are before we move on. A life coach appeals to me because they simply give you tools to move forward and in moving forward transgress to the person who you are at your core and they do it with love. "I consider myself lucky as I have come from a loving and caring family who have never judged me and who have provided me with endless opportunity. Admittedly we have our problems, some times problems that I feel consume me completely, but nevertheless I have always considered myself lucky. I have always had and still have a plethora of friends who care for me, laugh with me, motivate me, love me for exactly who I am. I have traveled the world and seen the richest and the poorest countries, I own two houses, and my family owns beautiful holiday homes. I drive a beautiful car. I have a sister who brings me so much joy that whenever I think of her she brings a smile to my face and a flutter to my heart. I love her unconditionally. I am fit and healthy, I love to paint, create, sew, read, drink, eat, cook, soak in baths and dance. I have had many lovely relationships and work in a job that fulfills me in many, many ways. On the whole I know that so many people in the world would be envious of my position in life. I have always and will always feel incredibly lucky. Yet someone who I love very dearly bought to my attention that despite the fact I am very warm, giving, compassionate, sensual, fun and very loving, that at times I can also say mean and hurtful things, sometimes I don’t listen very well, I can be reactive especially if someone is telling me something about myself that I don’t like, I am not particularly good at conflict resolution or confronting difficult topics and I can be controlling. When my boyfriend bought this to my attention I felt hurt, but I needed to hear it. I immediately decided that I needed to get someone to help me become a better person. I knew that I had these tendencies, but hadn’t noticed them since a previous relationship of a number of years earlier. I had tried to change these behaviors and yet years later they were still perpetuating themselves and I realized there was a pattern that I was struggling to break. "Rarnee, Rarnee, Rarnee…. It took a little bit of courage to email Rarnee, but not all that much. At that point I felt a lot more fear attached to the possibility that I may end up old and regretful than I did about asking for a bit of help along the way. It was a wonderful decision. I liked Rarnee the minute I talked to her. She listened carefully, her warmth emanated through the phone, I felt no judgment and I liked the fact that she told me things that I didn’t necessarily expect to hear. She also seemed normal in that she had previously had her own set of challenges and had also undergone life coaching. It made the process more real and less threatening to feel that I was communicating with someone who understood that life could be complicated and yet that everything could get better with enough commitment and determination. Even though I only spoke to Rarnee once per week or fortnight I constantly had a warm feeling as though an angel was (and still is) watching over me. Because I respect Rarnee for evolving to the wonderful person she is and for devoting herself to helping me, I am committed to showing her the progress I am making. I do my homework and practice my affirmations because they help me and because Rarnee believes in me. I have been seeing Rarnee for about 6 months now and I have thoroughly enjoyed the journey. I intend to continue this journey for as long as possible because I feel my love and soul have no boundaries. But for now I know it has been worthwhile because I am starting to listen more intently and my friends have noticed this. I have stopped going to the gym and enjoy exercising outside in the real world with the wildlife, fresh air, blue sky and green grass. I want to be around my friends more because I think they like being around me more, and they tell me so. Sometimes I do get angry and react, but I notice it, reel myself back in and move on quickly instead of being stuck in a rut for hours or days or weeks on end. I am more motivated at work and am kicking goals each and every day. I can turn my thoughts from fear in to love very quickly because I now recognize when I am being fearful and I know how to love myself and the world around me more. The changes (for lack of a better word) are subtle, but they make me feel larger than life. "Thank you Rarnee, for believing in me, for reminding me to be patient, and for being patient with me. I came to you because I saw my best friend evolve in to a serene and beautiful butterfly. Now one of my closest friends has chosen to see you because they see the same happening to me. Life Coaching is infectious, just like a smile! It is one of the greatest and most fulfilling challenges I have faced, to become at peace with myself and the beautiful world around me. "Thank you Rarnee. "And as you always say, Love and Blessings to You!" © 2006 Rarnee Kernick ~ Evolution Coaching. Copyright Notice |
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